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6 ft. Vs 6 inches

I took the big leap and flew commercial. Here’s what I learned …

Denver International Airport was crowded; reminded me of holiday travel.

Ninety-five percent of travelers were masked.


Frequent announcements re: ‘6 ft.’ No way that was working. Everyone was, at the most, six inches apart.

First flight 175 seats — 175 passengers! 

I’m glad I flew.

Yes, I will do it again.

Yes, I will wear a mask until someday I have to wear lipstick.

I did smile when I had to pull down my mask so the TSA guy could identify me against my driver’s license (and the long, long lines where people were standing shoulder to shoulder).

I have no idea what the new normal will be, but I’m ready. 

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I Sat in the Corner so I Could Sit at the Desk

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I Sat in the Corner so I Could Sit at the Desk

Published on May 18, 2021

Looking back, I had no idea how sitting in the corner would give me the chance of a lifetime.

I was the first consultant, west of the Mississippi River, the consulting firm had hired to open an office in Oklahoma City. The corporate headquarters were in Phoenix, Arizona. They were executives whose careers had hit a wall, they had been fired or were burned out. They needed career help.

 First day of training I met the trainer, Lee. He promptly said, “I’ve been told I have to train you. Quite frankly, I don’t think a woman can be a consultant. Sit in the corner and take notes.”

  Fortunately, he could not read my mind.

 First week, I sat in the corner and took copious notes. Lee would occasionally ask for my opinion after a session and I did just that, I gave him my professional opinion.

 The next week, there n was no change until midweek when Lee said “Okay, you sit in my chair, and I’ll take notes.”

 I did. Thankfully, he could not see my knees shaking and I made sure he could not hear anything but confidence in my voice. We would discuss each session after the client left. 

 During the third week, on Monday morning I arrive in Phoenix and Lee was not in the office. They told me he was playing golf and would be in later in the week. Yes, I was on my own.  

 On Wednesday afternoon, Lee came in. He shook my hand and said, “Welcome aboard! You’ll be a damn good consultant!” And I was off and running.

 I have used that observational approach so many times, not only in my career, but personally as well, and it has worked every single time. It is not easy. And I have always had a friend that was my sounding board when I needed to get rid of the ugly comments or thoughts in my head.

 In today’s contentious world, socially and professionally, I constantly witness people butting heads, tearing each other down and damaging friendships and progress. Six years ago, I had a chance to once again keep my mouth shut and let a professional (we needed his expertise) rant and rave (thankfully never in public). It took a lot of listening,

never responding with more than “Oh,” but he came around. As a result, thousands of homeless dogs found new homes, pets were “fixed” and he became a supporter.

 Never, ever, underestimate the powerful response of an “Oh” response. It means I heard you, I understand what you are saying. It doesn’t mean I agree.”

 Easy to do?? Absolutely NOT!!  

Worth the investment?

It still works for me.

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